Tuesdays with a farmer - Pregnancy- Part I

Note: This is an edited transcript of a lecture delivered by the farmer on "Pregnancy and Parenting"
I have always been fascinated by the idea that something which is so fundamental completely escapes our attention.  As families are becoming smaller and smaller, there is no carryover of old wisdom at all. You never have a great grand mother who could exactly tell you how this is done. As you get caught up in your stride, you realize you have no time and all you you can offer is nothing but money.

The process of delivery is like any other process in the body. Its like going to the loo. It should be that easy. Your muscle, if flexible enough, should have no problem. Unfortunately, body is not at all fit. Therefore it is painful. If you look at history, more babies have been born underneath the sky rather than inside a room. In the last 40 years, we have made it into a surgical problem. 

Now we have come to the point where, pregnant women are called as patients. They are admitted as patients. They need to have patience. But there is no question of calling them patients. It’s a very simple and straight forward natural process if you are fit. If you are healthy, there shouldn’t be any problem. If the muscles are not really flexible, you hold back and pain starts. And at some point, you are like, Screw all this. Do what you want. Get this out fast. And the trouble begins.

The way a delivery would turn out, has got something to do with how you were born. Your body is really made at the time of delivery. Essentially during pregnancy the very crucial thing is to have a healthy body. Diet plays an important role. It is essential to have lot of raw diet. Very easy to digest. It gets directly the nutrients. It would suffice if the mother has one cooked meal every day. You should have lot of ghee. Ghee which is properly made, unlike the one available at the market.  Ideal would be two spoons per day, good quality ghee made of good quality milk.  Fruits and nuts are also very important. Peanut is a wonderful source of calcium.

If you want calcium, the best way to do it would be:

Soak peanut over night. Run it with a little water in mixie. Its like a thick mixture when it is boiled, When it is settled, it becomes like a curd, you get this peanutty curd,  which has all the amino acids of sprouted peanut. It’s the great source of calcium.

The more raw fruits you eat, the more flexible your muscles would be.  Your muscles would be more relaxed. There is this whole method called Lamaze.  Dr. Lamaze discovered a way to actually deliver when contraction cycle starts.The breathing process helps to weather the pain by attuning to the cycle. Normally, both the parents learn Lamaze breathing technique.  There is a wonderful book by Elizabeth Bing  on this method and there are Lamaze classes all over the country.

It is always recommended to have pregnancy at home. Now you can get all the right facilities for facilitating it. However nice the doctor and the hospital may be, there is no real personal connection. The baby is taken away by the nurse. It has become yet another process vying for ISO certification.

The baby is floating calmly inside the liquid. It gets the best of the food that you eat. If you eat really bad food, it gets the best it can get. If you eat really good food, it will be better.The lights are filtered. Sounds are very muffled. Its the stage you and I would long to have throughout our life. It comes through the narrow passage. Outside, everybody is making noise. There is so much light. The experience must be traumatic for the baby. The funny thing, the lady is asked to lie on the back and push against the gravity? Why? Because it's comfortable for the obstetrician. Ideally,you should let gravity work.

In the old time, there used to be one room deep into the house, strictly meant for pregnancy.  Nobody was allowed to go inside that room other than that period. Light was very dim. It was very warm. You can recreate all of this now at your home itself.  I have had many friends who delivered their babies at home.  If you want to do something for your children, do it in the first three years. Do it in the nine months before they are born. Do it in the first three years afterwards. That's all. You have done enough for them that would last their life time.Not only that, you are also creating the possibility of taking this health further. Really, make that your real contribution. At that time, your money doesn't count at all. You can't throw money at the process. You can't get someone else to do this for you. 

At a certain period, couples often say, now we are ready to be parents. What does it mean? Now, we are ready to spend the money! We need not spend money on weird processes and tests. We should ideally spend money on taking time off to prepare ourselves for pregnancy.

Its amazing how the body changes,how nature starts creating the conditions for creation of life. If men don't get involved in it, it seems like, there is pressure on her to take care. If you don't participate in this, you lost this chance. It may not really seem like a macho thing. It may not be like that. You could get seriously involved in this to help her. 


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Navjot0411 said...

gr8 article....never knew many of the facts related to pregnancy mentioned in the article. great. would recommend everyone to read this. really an eye opener!!

Venkataraman said...

Thanks Navjot

Abhinav Gupta said...

Very interesting stuff. Would like to add an anecdote related to something you have touched here.

A professor who undertakes paidal shodh yatras every year once met a mid-wife who talked of the silliness of modern delivery methods. 
She mentioned that the light that the child is exposed to in the mother's womb is very ambient, and care should be taken to ensure that the child is delivered in very similar lighting. It is best, according to her to deliver babies in the light of the diya. That way the baby's eyes don't receive a shock once it comes out. But modern hospitals, which are essentially created for the convenience of the doctor, and not the mother & child, obviously ignores this beautiful understanding. This, according to her, was probably the reason for many of our eye defects which get exacerbated over time.

Secondly, she also mentioned that a new born child has never before been 'touched'. It has never felt, heard or seen anything in this world, outside the womb. And that is why it needs to be held by the mother, to familiarize itself with her touch, to get to know her bodies' vibrations, her feel. It needs to hear the mother's voice, and nothing else. This, coupled with ambient light, will ensure that the baby has a smooth transition into our world. And it will also ensure that the baby does not cry on delivery. Which brings up another point that she was confused why 'educated' people think it is normal for children to cry.. and why even doctors consider it normal..

Such wisdom lies in India, with illiterate people mostly. And we have the arrogance to equate illiteracy with backwardness and then discard this wisdom and call our intelligence superior.

Your blog has touched a chord, Venkat. Thanks for putting these ideas that float in many of our heads so beautifully :-)

Venkataraman said...

Thank you very much Abhinav for sharing something so profound. I am really elated to read this. Osho has shared many beautiful insights about pregnancy. In one of his writings, he says that women experience the biggest orgasm ever in their life when they are delivering a child. That experience is so profound to shake their entire being. In tribal societies, child birth is always equated with pleasure and never pain. Only in civilized societies we have come to take pain as normal. 

Osho, in one of his zen books, wonders why we love to spend time in beaches..The beautiful sound of the waves, the scent of the sea salt wafting in the air..He says that when we stand in the beach, we are subconsciously reminded of the blissful times we spent in the mother's womb..

Sumit Chharia said...

Very good article Venky...stumbled upon this one before I could get to the Information and Food!
I am reminded of a National Geographic coverage of the entire child birth process, but they don't talk about the things which you have covered in your article.

Venkataraman said...

Thanks Sumit ! Glad to have you here at Venkinesis